It is likely that you have at one point in your life compared yourself to other people. It is not unlikely that you are still doing that. Your best friend has a better relationship than yours because her boo buys her expensive gifts everyday. This type of comparison sounds a little bit unreasonable but that’s what comparison is. It strips you of objectivity and presents to you a lot of sentiments.
In life, healthy comparison may be the tool you need for excellence and until you are able to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy, you might be going round in circles constant unhappiness. Constant unhappiness might lead to jealousy which can in turn lead to bitterness.
–Everybody is unique
The sum of all your experiences, decisions, understanding, exposure and personality is what makes you unique. Nobody else can ever go through the same challenges you went through the exact period you went through them. Siblings and even twins understand life differently. They are going to react and respond to external ‘stimuli’ differently, so it would be totally unreasonable to expect our lives to be like other people’s lives because they are richer, more intelligent or more beautiful. Become super confident in yourself.
–It is totally unnecessary
What is going to be the end result of comparing your life with another person? How is comparing your life going to make you as good as them? You are going to worry and be sad. You are going to keep chasing after things that may not be achievable. Eventually, you may end up living a fake life to appear like the other person. As soon as the person moves on to other things, you are going to keep on trying to be like them until you feel exhausted. You are going to be tired in the end. Are these worth it? It is not necessary.
–You forget to be grateful
When you compare your life with others, you forget to count your blessings. You lose sight of the beautiful things that are presently going on in your own life. You forget to be grateful for those achievements that have made you happy at one point in your life.
–Your metrics are limited
If you are going to compare your life with other people, what metrics are you going to use? Are you going to combine the flourishing career of Mr A and the beautiful body shape of Mrs B with the spiritual fervency of sister C? If you will use just one metric – the spiritual fervency of sister C, of what standard are you going to compare hers? Is hers going to be an absolute indication of what spiritual fervency should be?
–Only you are sure of you
You don’t know what other people are doing to appear the way they are. This may be funny but what if rubbing off your classmate’s makeup reveals that the kind of nose you have always compared yours with isn’t exactly what you would like after all? Makeup gave you such an illusion! What if your colleague has had to get loans to appear rich. Only you know you. Only you are sure of what you have, what you are made up and what assets you have.
If you have been comparing yourself with someone in particular or other people, it is time to stop and face your life. Invest in yourself and pursue your own race diligently. Be true to yourself, be true to your personality, be true to people who love you and admire you for all the good stuff you have.
Below are some very helpful quotes on how to stop comparing yourself to others. You will find them additionally helpful.
“How much time he gains who does not look to see what his neighbour says or does or thinks, but only at what he does himself, to make it just and holy.”
― Marcus Aurelius,
“Comparison is the death of joy.”
― Mark Twain
“When the Lord makes it clear you’re to follow Him in this new direction, focus fully on Him and refuse to be distracted by comparisons with others.”
― Charles R. Swindoll
“Whatever your passion is, keep doing it. Don’t waste time chasing after success or comparing yourself to others. Every flower blooms at a different pace. Excel at doing what your passion is and only focus on perfecting it. Eventually people will see what you are great at doing, and if you are truly great, success will come chasing after you.”
― Suzy Kassem
“I cannot say this too strongly: Do not compare yourselves to others. Be true to who you are, and continue to learn with all your might.”
― Daisaku Ikeda, Discussions on Youth
“Personality begins where comparison leaves off. Be unique. Be memorable. Be confident. Be proud.”
― Shannon L. Alder
“Don’t always be appraising yourself, wondering if you are better or worse than other writers. “I will not Reason and Compare,” said Blake; “my business is to Create.” Besides, since you are like no other being ever created since the beginning of Time, you are incomparable. ”
― Brenda Ueland, If You Want to Write: A Book about Art, Independence and Spirit
“Peter must have thought, “Who am I compared to Mr. Faithfulness (John)?” But Jesus clarified the issue. John was responsible for John. Peter was responsible for Peter. And each had only one command to heed: “Follow Me.” (John 21:20-22)”
― Charles R. Swindol
“Do not compare yourself to anybody!”
― Israelmore Ayivor, Six Words Inspiration
“I cannot stress this enough: content creators need to stop comparing their work with that of total strangers. Furthermore, we need to stop seeing ourselves as content consumers and realize that, as producers, we need time and distance from what is already out there in order to create truly innovative work. If you are always exposing your mind to others’ work, when will you gain the strength to create your own? Find a balance between inspiration and creation, and make sure that the first is indeed inspiring. What might start as a journey to gather ideas can quickly become a shortcut to discouragement. Know when to stop.”
― Laura Busche, Powering Content: Building a Nonstop Content Marketing Machine