There are two categories of people: those living in the present but are stuck in their past, and; those living in the present but have moved on from their past.
If you fall in the first category, you can decide to stop the negative influence of the past by taking these next 8 steps to help yourself live a future you desire.
The future is beautiful and bright for those who have the imagination to see it daily.
Some are already living in the present hoping to see the future but still have a lot of things to deal with in the past, if you find yourself in such category, here are the 8 steps you can consider to live your life without the weight of your past affecting you.
1. REVEAL THE PAST
Have you been hiding your past from the reality it needs to face, and so it keeps hurting you?
What you resist will persist. If you don’t deal with your past, it will deal with you some day. So before your past deal with you, deal with it. Face it, and heal from it. Get help if possible from a professional counsellor.
2. EVALUATE THE PAST.
Every experience has its lessons attached to it. So when you are revealing your past, look out for the lessons. Don’t dwell on the mistakes, instead learn from it. Stop living in denial of yourself, face it, accept it, learn from it and extract new lessons. The lessons will make you better when taking steps forward.
3. DEFINE THE PRESENT
Your ‘Now’ is important and you have got to be conscious and deliberate about it. Define what you need to do. Until you are sure of what, where, and how you want the present to look like, you will go on confused. Instead of being confused, get to work and plan how you want your life to look like so you can deliberately work on it.
4. EDUCATE THE PRESENT WHAT MAKES UP YOUR PAST
Learning is continuous and you can only get better when you keep educating your self. So inform the Now (the present) what happened in the past. Get a purpose for your self , and your purpose at this point will give a road map to your future.
5. FORM THE PRESENT
“All experts are experts on what was. There is no expert on what will be. To become an expert on the future, vision must replace experience,” said David Ben-Gurion, the prime minister of Israel. There is a need to form how you want your present to look like. You can create a vision board that you can daily work on. It puts you on your toes and serve as a reminder of what you aim to achieve.
6. IGNITE THE PRESENT
Whatever principle has worked for you over time, believe in it, uphold it. Personally give your best to know more irrespective of whatever might surface in your journey. Show your self approved to your goals.
7. NURTURE THE PRESENT
Personally developing yourself will help you grow and get necessary knowledge to your vision in life. ”Personal development is the reason you shouldn’t stop growing.”
8. EVALUATE AHEAD OF THE FUTURE
Check yourself from time to time. Know when to make corrections. There are times mistakes will reoccur, what makes it beautiful is when you can learn from it and move on. Know that “greatness is not determined by what a man drives but by the values that drive the man”. Your values will keep you going when you can checkmate your self from time to time and give your life the right medication it needs.
“Your past needs healing from you, your future needs acceptance and your present needs ownership from you.”
– Dayo Samuel
You can live your best life today by taking charge of what makes up your life.
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