many women truly enjoy the single life, others are ready to find their “MR.
RIGHT” and begin a new chapter in the story of their lives. Whether you’re new
to the game or you’ve been dating a bunch of ‘good for nothing’, this article
is meant for you.
In this article I
would be highlighting and discussing five basic and crucial tips to finding the
right guy noting that everyone is different but this tips can be applied by
almost anyone and still achieve positive results.
What You Want: The most important part about finding Mr. right is that you must
not sit around waiting for him to find you. You have to go out and find him.
Even Cinderella got herself to the ball! And the first step to finding the
right guy is “know what you want” from a man and the relationship if not, how
would you know the right guy when he comes? Setting your priorities straight
and having standards enable you to know the right guy when he comes your way
noting that more often than not, the right guy may not meet up to all the
standards that you have set for yourself but meeting most of it if not all is
an important factor to also look out for.
From his dress sense to the way he
relates with others, you would have your preferences so why not include them in
the list of how you want your man to look like and behave because why would you
want to be in a relationship with someone that doesn’t possess the
characteristics you like and end up feeling embarrassed about him around your
friends? So once you have your list ready you know what to look out for and
possible places of finding him.
Where To Look: All types of men cannot be found everywhere, different places with
different types and class of men. So knowing what you (kind of man) are looking
for would determine the place to go look for him, just like a Christian lady
looking for a faithful Christian Brother cannot go looking for him in the club.
After you’ve figured out the kind of guy you’re looking for, go to neighborhoods
where such guys are concentrated to have your lunch or just hang out, this
means you should be willing to talk to guys you don’t know
How To Look: In knowing how to look, you can also ask your friends for their
tell….. Mr. Right might just have been a table away from you at the office and
people get to see what you don’t! Remember that you’ve set your standards so
use that as a guide to choosing, from looking at his priorities to the way he
talks to and about you and everything else in between, these are signs to watch
out for. Does he try to avoid calling you his girlfriend when introducing you?
Has he been reluctant to introduce you to his parents despite the fact that
you’ve been dating for a while?
These are bad signs and you should also watch
out for how he talks to you. Is he insulting and always hurting your feelings
with his words? Even when you have flaws, Mr. right would help you making
yourself better rather than rubbing your imperfections in your face and he
would do this by being patient with you not instead of pressuring you.
Mrs. Right: Get a life! The most important thing is to be Mrs. Right yourself.
Finding the right man is not going to change you into a better person than you
already are. If you are lazy and self-centered, finding a generous and
hardworking man would not transform you, it would rather create an unhealthy imbalance in the relationship noting that no
one would want to have a lazy person as a life partner.
So try to model
yourself after women you admire. Work hard at changing your character defects
(if you are not sure what they are, ask your mum), get a hobby, complete your
education and learn to be happy with yourself first because no man, no matter
how right is going to make you happy if you aren’t already happy from within.
This blog post was written by Charlotte David. You can find her here